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How To Be Happy in 10 Simple Steps

Do You Want To Be Happy?

Everyone has the desire to be happy. But have you ever really thought about how to be happy? What makes you really happy? Some people find their joy in a new “thing” or “toy”. But as soon as the new wears off they are unhappy again. So how do we actually find joy? How do we learn to be happy and content?

I believe it’s a choice. Everything in life is a choice. Do you choose to be happy? I do!

An interesting thing happened last night as I was looking back over my blog posts and answering comments. I found the following post that I had written back in November, right after the County didn’t renew my contract.  Who knows why I never published it. I think it’s because I hadn’t added any photos yet. But as I read through it I realized it is as relevant today as it was back then. I hope it is a good reminder for all of us. I know it was for me!

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My family makes me happy! What makes you happy?

Being Happy in the Middle of A Mess

Have you ever ended up in a mess?  A financial one, a broke down vehicle, a family conflict, or some other kind?  I sure have!

Right this moment I’m in the middle of a mess. Like many of you, my businesses have been hammered by the economy, and now, my part-time, fill in the gap, contract with Delta County was not renewed. So I am in the middle of a mess. But this is not the first time I’ve had to scramble.

For a few days I was excited to see what God was up to and was ready for the changes.  Then, when the bills started to pile up, reality set in and I started to sink. All I could see were walls closing in and zero light at the end of the tunnel.

But again, this is not the first time I’ve been knocked down. Because I’ve been there before I know there are several key steps to climbing back up out of that dark pit of despair. Since I’m not the only person that is, or has been down on their luck recently, I thought I would share with you my secret to climb back up, getting back on this horse, and riding  again. They are fairly simple. But are fundamental to long term happiness and success.

10 Simple Happy Steps

Step 1:     Pray.  Pray with earnest.  But don’t pray “Gimme prayers”. Pray prayers of thankfulness.  Prayers of praise.  Thank God for caring enough about you to move you into the next great thing He has planned for you.

Step 2:  Be thankful.  Remember all your blessings and verbalize them in thanks. On my darkest day I walked outside and saw my view and remembered how incredibly blessed I am to have a home, in a spectacularly beautiful location, with horses in the pasture, a car, a truck, and a horse trailer in the driveway, and most importantly a great God and family that loves me.

Step 3: Realize this time is precious. You have been given the blessing of time to reorganize you mind and your life.

Step 4:  Stop, slow down, and write down what your highest and best dreams are.  Remember you must have a road map to get someplace, and you must start with an end in mind.  So decide where you want to be and what you want to do.

Step 5:  Then decide what comes first, second, and third.  Write it down!  Because when you’re stressed you won’t remember what you thought of, five minutes after you thought of it.

Step 6:  Break down what comes first into several smaller, do-able tasks for today.  Write down what you need to accomplish today.  Keep it short to allow for interruptions. But make it count on your road-map to your future.

Step 7:  Do the same thing for tomorrow, and the next day, and the first week.  Then give yourself a roughed out road map for the next month.  Again, be flexible, nothing should be set in stone.

Step 8:  Breath.  About here you may be panicking.  Stop, pray again, and practice deep breathing.  Speak this till you see it, “Father, thank you for caring for me and my family. Thank you for providing far more, and far better than I could have ever imagined.”  And then BELIEVE IT!   Get it deep down inside yourself.

Step 9:  Get that faith down deep inside you.  Trust God for answers.  And if you don’t have God in your life toolbox, get down on your knees and ask Him to come into your life, guide you, and show Himself to you.  Trust me, He will.  And you will be blown away!

Step 10:  Wash, rinse, repeat!  Do these steps over and over until you climb your way back up that ladder and step out on safe, solid ground.

Don’t Beat Yourself Up!

I should have kept my own good advice handy!  I was in the middle of the move when I hit Step #8! Yet, instinctively I continued to pray, continued to trust God, and am climbing my way back up to safer, more solid ground!

I wish you an incredibly blessed day, week, month, year, life!

Go with God my friends!

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How to be Happy Not Stressed

Be Happy

Third in a series on how to be happy not stressed the midst of chaos or a disaster.

When I wrote “Be Happy” I wanted to sing, “Don’t worry. . . be happy!” That is a wonderful dream isn’t it?

But can we live life, dealing with stressful issues, and not worry, but instead be happy? I believe it is possible.

Catching You Up

In the last post I was sitting on the ditch bank watching the new, expensive, culvert being installed, playing games with my shadow rather than worrying about how much this beaver dam situation is costing us. When I looked up and saw my little band of broodmares standing at the gate to the river bottom watching us.

Mares at the gate

I elbowed my niece, Lisa and pointed out the mares. We talked about how funny it was they were watching us. About that moment I realized the best mare in the bunch was lame. Needless to say I headed her direction. When I reached her, she had badly injured on her front leg.

The road to the barn was cut wide open having a new culvert installed so I had to walk the injured mare a mile through three pastures to get her back where I could clean the wound and doctor her.

Normally I would have been a stressed out mess. Worried sick about how to get her back, how badly cut she was, wondering what had happened and how would I ever find where she had gotten hurt so I could make sure no other horse got injured in the same manner.

But today, after finding peace in the midst of chaos and stress with the entire beaver pond, new culvert, road gashing experience, I decided it did no good to worry and stress. I had no choice but to go slow and enjoy the walk as we worked our way back to the barn.

So rather than rush and hurt the mare more, we slowly strolled through pasture after pasture.  Because we were moving so slowly I saw my pastures from an entirely new perspective. Here are a few photos I snapped we walked.

Tall, pond grass

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Tall, pond grass, blowing in the breeze

Spiders have been extremely busy!

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Spiders have been busy! Webs glistening in the sun

One spider web blowing in the breeze

One web blowing

A weed with webs becomes a thing of beauty

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Weed becomes a thing of beauty

Zanny excitedly greeting her new friend over the fence

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Zanny running

The horses coming from the pasture – the colt has a passenger!

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Hummm a passenger!

The little bird rode almost the entire length of the pasture.

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Passenger rode all the way

The trek to the barn became a relaxing stroll of one enchanting moment to the next, rather than a stressful, worry filled, walk. The mare did fine as long as we went slow and my stress level stayed low because I took the opportunity to enjoy the time rather than fret.

Now, do you think you can be happy and not stressed when you face a challenge this week?

What are YOUR stress relieving strategies?

Please share in the Comments Section below!

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