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Do You Ever Need More Patience or Confidence?

Do You Ever Need More Patience or More Confidence?

Boy I sure do! Especially this week!

The reason you have not heard for me for a couple of weeks is because I’m moving. Yes, moving. I have been offered a good job in the same town where my daughter lives, and now I need more patience, confidence, and a lot more sleep!

Honestly, I wonder if a job is worth leaving my home and this ranch. Patience, job, rainbow, ranch, hay, round bales, cattle, horses

Sun Dog over our river bottom pasture

Is it? I don’t know. This is my home, it’s incredibly beautiful, and I am extremely sad to leave it.

But, Delta County did not renew my contract,  my other businesses have suffered because of the economy, and the jobs in Delta County are few and far between, and don’t pay very well. So I’m between a rock and a very hard place.

There are so many what if’s in my life. What if I already had a book contract, what if I had never left the County job in the first place, what if my business had not crashed after the election, what if people had more confidence in the economy and were willing to spend money on my natural health products, what if, what if, what if.

But reality is, all these things are fact. So I have been praying for a job and a very good one was literally dropped in my lap, no application, they called me out of the blue. And it happens to be in the same town as where my daughter lives. What a coincidence.

But then came the nightmare of finding a place to live, for not just me, but also for my horses. So for two weeks it has been a mad house of praying for the right place, calling, calling, calling, trusting God will provide, and packing, even though I didn’t have a place. It has been Crazy! And talk about needing patience! I felt like I was going to jump out of my skin!

Add to all this, I needed a double dose of patience for my relationship with my daughter who was scared about me living that close, worried because I didn’t have a house to live in, mad that I was leaving the ranch and all my dreams, and afraid I was abandoning our goals with the horses.  All this boiled down to . . .  she was worried about her mom.

But the place I needed the most patience turned out to be my relationship with God. I will confess, I was mad at God. How could a loving God allow this to happen to me? I have worked very hard the past five years to do what I thought He had led me to do! How could this happen?

I had left the County two years ago believing God was leading me to do my ProArgi9 business full time and save lives with this incredible product. The business was growing wonderfully, then the election came and my business plummeted.  Luckily, I was able to go back to work for the County part-time and it was perfect. I worked both jobs and was doing great. Then the County pulled the rug out from under me and didn’t renew my contract. And I got mad at God.

I had so many questions, so many doubts, but the reality is, God is still in control, He really is still taking care of me, and everything really will work out for the best. All I have to do is trust and have patience as He works out His Highest and Best for me. His plans are higher than my plans. My job is to just keep moving forward, and have trust and patience that He is working all this out.

Have you ever had a time when you were struggling?    Have you ever been mad at God?  How did that work out?  I hope you will share in the Comments Section below because frankly, I need to hear your stories to help build my confidence and patience as I walk this out.

Thank you and God bless!

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How to be Happy Not Stressed

Be Happy

Third in a series on how to be happy not stressed the midst of chaos or a disaster.

When I wrote “Be Happy” I wanted to sing, “Don’t worry. . . be happy!” That is a wonderful dream isn’t it?

But can we live life, dealing with stressful issues, and not worry, but instead be happy? I believe it is possible.

Catching You Up

In the last post I was sitting on the ditch bank watching the new, expensive, culvert being installed, playing games with my shadow rather than worrying about how much this beaver dam situation is costing us. When I looked up and saw my little band of broodmares standing at the gate to the river bottom watching us.

Mares at the gate

I elbowed my niece, Lisa and pointed out the mares. We talked about how funny it was they were watching us. About that moment I realized the best mare in the bunch was lame. Needless to say I headed her direction. When I reached her, she had badly injured on her front leg.

The road to the barn was cut wide open having a new culvert installed so I had to walk the injured mare a mile through three pastures to get her back where I could clean the wound and doctor her.

Normally I would have been a stressed out mess. Worried sick about how to get her back, how badly cut she was, wondering what had happened and how would I ever find where she had gotten hurt so I could make sure no other horse got injured in the same manner.

But today, after finding peace in the midst of chaos and stress with the entire beaver pond, new culvert, road gashing experience, I decided it did no good to worry and stress. I had no choice but to go slow and enjoy the walk as we worked our way back to the barn.

So rather than rush and hurt the mare more, we slowly strolled through pasture after pasture.  Because we were moving so slowly I saw my pastures from an entirely new perspective. Here are a few photos I snapped we walked.

Tall, pond grass

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Tall, pond grass, blowing in the breeze

Spiders have been extremely busy!

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Spiders have been busy! Webs glistening in the sun

One spider web blowing in the breeze

One web blowing

A weed with webs becomes a thing of beauty

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Weed becomes a thing of beauty

Zanny excitedly greeting her new friend over the fence

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Zanny running

The horses coming from the pasture – the colt has a passenger!

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Hummm a passenger!

The little bird rode almost the entire length of the pasture.

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Passenger rode all the way

The trek to the barn became a relaxing stroll of one enchanting moment to the next, rather than a stressful, worry filled, walk. The mare did fine as long as we went slow and my stress level stayed low because I took the opportunity to enjoy the time rather than fret.

Now, do you think you can be happy and not stressed when you face a challenge this week?

What are YOUR stress relieving strategies?

Please share in the Comments Section below!

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Stress Management Secrets

Meddling in mud made us mindful of stress management.

If you haven’t read the first in this series I recommend you click here to read it so you know “the rest of the story” of what’s going on in this post.

Here on the ranch we had our most important culvert on the place with a beaver dam in it. When beaver build a dam in a culvert they completely STOP the flow of water.  Thus the term “dam”.  Or as we prefer “Damn”!

No Water

Water for the West half of our property comes through that culvert. So we had to remove the beaver dam.  You have to give the little rodents credit, they built a serious dam that humans, with thumbs, could not figure out how to remove.

Us humans, with thumbs, in our rambunctious attempts to find and destroy said dam ended up breaking the original culvert into pieces trying to remove the damn dam.  (Sorry sensitive readers!)

All of us working on getting rid of the beaver dam were trying to stay light hearted and not get angry.  But with each failed attempt to remedy the situation all of us grew more and more stressed.

How the Day Progressed

The day had started with just Joe and I working to open up the culvert.

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Joe in his backhoe

Then my nephew, Mike, and his fun dog, Wally came to help.

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Mike and his dog Wally with Joe

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Wally!

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Where did your ears go Wally?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Oh, there they are!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Around noon, my Brother-In-Law, Clint, and niece, Lisa, came to help as well.  Clint had a load of cattle to haul so he checked out our progress, announced he didn’t approve of what we were doing,  and headed off.  Adding just a bit more stress!

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Clint and Mike surveying work on the culvert

Isn’t the photo below a great picture of my niece and nephew? Sure love ’em!  I took this photo while we were waiting on Clint to get back from hauling the cattle so we could go get some lunch.

We were hungry!

Mike & Lisa - Great Picture

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

While we waited on Clint  the new culverts arrived.  As soon as the trailer with the culverts pulled up, cattle began meandering in from all over the pastures to complete their own quality inspection of trailer and culverts.

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Cattle arriving to inspect the new culverts

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

After lunch Mike gathered a rope and a chain to wrap around the culvert and guide its movement.

Mike with the rope and chain

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It was a bit tricky but with the trusty rope Mike guided it into it’s new home.

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Down She Goes!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And Voila’! New culvert is finally in!

Pipe in the ditch & Mike's foot

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Of course I have to get down in the ditch to check it all out and take a picture!

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Inspection time

And while I was inspecting the work Lisa became the photographer and goes shutter happy!

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All’s well so I can come out and dirt can go in.

Woops!

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Woops! Almost took a nose dive into the ditch!

Woo, thank Heavens, safe!

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All good!

While recording my grace, Lisa notice how fun the shadows were becoming.

And so the shadow games began:

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Lisa and I find our shadows

And now shadow pointing:

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Shadows watching the culvert and taking photos

And the grand prize shadow for the day:

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The prize winner

As you can tell from the shadows it is getting late in the day.  We were all tired and grouchy, or silly.  Lisa and I were obviously doing our own fun form of stress management while the men were busily working.

Next Disaster

Then, just as I thought the day was winding down, I looked up and noticed a group of mares on the river had come to the fence to watch the commotion. But even from that distance I could see one of them was limping.

I keep a halter on the fence case of emergencies.  This was just such a situation.

Excusing myself from culvert duty I headed straight to the mares.

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Mares at the gate

Sure enough, one of our best mares had cut her pastern.  More stress.  She let me catch her and we headed back toward the barn. Me leading and her limping.

Since the road still had a major gash in it we had to go the long way around.

You will have to check back on Sunday for the next segment in this series to see how I handled leading a lame horse almost a mile through pastures,  over bridges, and past other horses to get her back to the barn and the wound cleaned and treated.

What do you for stress management?

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